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She Can Do Herself

By Kusum KC
According to this data, girls of under 18 were considered to be at high risk. With the growth of incidence related to women's violence, there’s no way we would feel safe. Why do we hear incidents of violence against women on a daily basis? Why delay in justice to Nirmala Panta even after 1 year? Until when will the girls like Nirmala Panta be scared to get out of their home and live in fear?

Women are not confined within one character only. Their identity, roles, and responsibilities change according to the time. They are somebody’s sister, wife, daughter in law and a mother too. They are taken as the form of god Laxmi when they are born. They are raised to be a moral character for everyone. Society wants them to have good character and be responsible. However, their days pass fulfilling the responsibilities of a daughter in law. By the grace of time, she gets to be a mother. Being born as a woman and taking responsibility, they face so many problems because of which they don’t want to give birth to another woman to face the same difficulty. Thinking that the daughters might face the same problems as them, they want to have a son compared to a daughter.

Similarly, abortion is a growing tendency among women after knowing the gender of the child in the womb. If we closely see in our society, daughters are given dolls and makeup stuff whereas sons are given footballs, vehicles, and other manly stuff. They are differentiated as a son and daughter from the beginning. Daughters are limited within the household chores. Daughters are sent to government schools and sons are sent to private boarding schools. Daughters are not sent to private schools because they are thought to be someone that gets married and sent away. Sons are sent to private schools because they are considered to be responsible for the family in the future. Since the difference between the sons and daughters start from the home, women get in the state of discrimination in many places. Due to low education and early marriage, women have to face different physical, mental, social and sexual violence.

In the early days, women were considered to have less confidence and self-dependency. Because of this, women were scared to speak, and share what they felt with other people and as a result, they became the victim of violence, rape, harassment and are considered to be inferior to men. Women have less participation in societal decisions and are heard very less. The state of single women, helpless, disabled, and handicapped are more vulnerable. Because of these beliefs and prejudices, women are back warded. Since the women face menstruation, they are considered to be weak and no change is seen. There are approximately 51.55% of women in Nepal but are still in the shadow.

Looking at the current situation, women violence, teenage rape, misbehave, harassment, and discrimination are at a rapid increase. Because of being a woman, since an early period of time they have been a victim of the discrimination. Over the top of it, among the many countries of South Asia, Nepal has a larger number of increases in the child and women violence. From the east of Province 1 to the west of Province 7, the participation of women in the programs is found to be very less. When looked into the data of recent Nepali month of Shrawan, 180 women were found to be the victim of women violence and rape. Among which 43 are included in rape cases in the age group of teenage, 25 of them were child and 6 were tried to forced physical relation. It is known that 71 were abused in the home, 8 were sexually harassed, 2 were trafficked and 6 faced other kinds of violence.

Going through the same data, 288 rape cases were recorded in the last year. Among which 14 were killed after the incident which is enlisted by WOREC Nepal. According to this data, girls of under 18 were considered to be at high risk. With the growth of incidence related to women’s violence, there’s no way we would feel safe. Why do we hear incidents of violence against women on a daily basis? Why delay in justice to Nirmala Panta even after 1 year? Until when will the girls like Nirmala Panta be scared to get out of their home and live in fear?

A mother has to remain in constant fear of her daughter who is at school. Women are not weak from their birth. It is only the way we see women through our eyes. The country’s stability depends on security, protection, and development. UN has adopted the sustainable development goals of gender equality and peace and security. Even after so many laws and rights for women, they are still in the shadow.

Being a girl, they can be independent and successful. This should be understood by the people and it has been a need in today’s society. Women have to face difficulties on their own and solve them. It has to be showed that women are capable of deciding right and wrong. They should be able to demonstrate their opinions, beliefs, and thoughts. Women can raise their voices against violence. Women can fight for justice and against violence. After all of this, women should have self-confidence, self-dependency, self-respect, and dignity. Everyone should support the belief that women are capable of doing it.

For the solution of these problems, there is a necessity of girl’s empowerment, education, engagement, and entrepreneurship development. For this, Sakchhin Chhori (Girls Can Do Herself) program is broadcasted weekly in the NTV Plus which is presented by SDGs Studio with the support of Jagriti Child and Youth Concern Nepal and KANALLAN. The TV program aims to empower, engage and inspire girls and interact on the girl issues and discuss the best possible way to solve the problem. The interview was taken with one of the focal people of government/organization/activist/development partner and a girl representative for each episode to discuss the girl issues, challenges, and action, where the TV host moderated the interview of Sakchhin Chhori. The girls of the Devchuli Municipality have shown the examples that girls can do herself if we can create a friendly environment.
Girls have their own potential that they can do the right things accordingly. We are in the mission to empower girls that they can raise their voice, defend themselves in any circumstances.

(Kusum KC is women activist and freelance journalist associate with different NGO)

Published Date: Saturday, December 21st, 2019 | 07:37 PM

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