Miley Cyrus: ‘Sex Is A Beautiful And Magical Thing’
Cyrus was introduced to the world as a plucky 12-year-old on Disney’s “Hannah Montana” and came of age both on television and in the public eye — constantly criticized for growing up too fast, and trying to be too sexy too soon.
The 19-year-old starlet is more than aware of the world’s expectations of her, but says that it’s hard to live up to them when she’s just trying to find herself, she revealed in a new interview.
“I feel I was so trained in my interviews to be All-American or whatever. I just got so set in the way of saying the same things I did when I was 12-years-old… I guess I kind of realized that my whole life isn’t one giant press junket. I don’t have to be smiling all the time and always have the perfect answer,” she said on a recent episode of Lifetime’s “The Conversation With Amanda de Cadenet.”
For Cyrus, the natural transition from a young girl to young woman has been fought at nearly every turn — with Cyrus having to defend everything from her belief in same-sex marriage to her views on religion and her “sexier” image.
“For me, what I do [being sexy] is not the point. You’re not sitting there trying to be sexy. If people find that [I am], I take it as a compliment,” she told Cadenet, quickly adding that she knows that some people disapprove, but says it’s just who she is. “People are so scared of seeing a woman being like, ‘This is who I am and you’re not going to change it.’”
Some of Cyrus’ ultra-conservative critics have gone so far in the past as to call her “disgusting,” but she feels as though the entertainment industry has backed her into a corner as to how she’s supposed to behave.
“[It] used to be if you’re a woman you do not sing about sex, and now if that’s not what you’re singing about, if that’s not your entire image, you won’t get played [on radio and TV],” she explained. “The last season of [“Hannah Montana”] I put out “Can’t Be Tamed,” which even just the title of that for a woman to say that she can’t be tamed, and of all people in the world, my face saying I can’t be tamed, when that’s all people really wanted to do — I think that proves how sexist people still really are and judgmental. It’s the whole thing of saying ‘be sexy, but our way.”
The singer, who made headlines just last night at the Billboard Music Awards for her revealing outfit, also got candid about how too many young women value themselves based on their sexual interactions
“The girls that really base how much they’re worth on the sexual favors they can do for somebody, that makes me really sad. Because sex is actually really beautiful. It’s the only way we create, and it’s the only way the world keeps going. So it’s ignorant not to talk to your kids about it or [not] make it seem as magical or cool as it actually is,” she explained. “[Kids] have a TV, so they know what sex is. So educate them and let them know … it’s a beautiful thing, and it is magic, and it’s when you connect with somebody. And it isn’t how much you’re worth. Your worth isn’t based on that, your worth is based on how you feel about yourself.”
Though Cyrus sounds as if she knows who she is and what she believes in, she admits that the world’s expectations still have taken a toll on her.
“I’ve lost [my sense of self] a lot. There’s times you hear what you should be so much that you lose what you actually are, and that’s really hard,” she said.